Then he said one police officer started threatening him saying, “If we have to get a warrant, we’re going to come back when you’re not expecting it, we’re going to park in front of your house, where all your neighbors can see, we’re gonna bust in your door with a battering ram, we’re gonna shoot and kill your dogs, who are my family, and then we’re going to ransack your house looking for these people.”
Killing homeowner’s dogs is standard operating procedure for cops.
“While Ms. McKenna “did not ‘abduct’ the child,” the court said, “her appropriation of the child while in utero was irresponsible, reprehensible.”—
Sara McKenna, a former Marine, became pregnant during a brief relationship with Bode Miller, an Olympic skier. While seven months pregnant, she moved from California to New York to go to school, leading a judge to scold her for “virtually absconding with her fetus.” Now, the fight for custody of their son has become “a closely watched legal battle over the rights of pregnant women to travel and make life choices.” (via bebinn)
I wouldn’t ever ask any of these questions to someone, probably even over the internet. But I’d be interested in knowing the answers from most anyone for some reason. I have a few minutes on my hand, so I’ll just answer ‘em all.
1:Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? open 2:Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel? no 3:Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out? out 4:Have you ever stolen a street sign before? yes 5:Do you like to use post-it notes? yes 6:Do you cut out coupons but then never use them? no 7:Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees? bees 8:Do you have freckles? yes 9:Do you always smile for pictures? yes 10:What is your biggest pet peeve? when people are late 11:Do you ever count your steps when you walk? no 14:Do you ever dance even if there’s no music playing? no 15:Do you chew your pens and pencils? no 16:How many people have you slept with this week? one 17:What size is your bed? king 18:What is your Song of the week? umm… NPR 19:Is it okay for guys to wear pink? yes, stupid question 20:Do you still watch cartoons? yes 21:Whats your least favorite movie? Magnolia 22:Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some? not going to spend time thinking about this one, sorry 23:What do you drink with dinner? water 24:What do you dip a chicken nugget in? ketchup 25:What is your favorite food? bread 26:What movies could you watch over and over and still love? Life Aquatic, Beautiful Girls, Christmas Vacation, LEON (The Professional), Big Lebowski, Wonder Boys 28:Were you ever a boy/girl scout? briefly 29:Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine? sure 30:When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper? maybe 2 years 31:Can you change the oil on a car? no 32:Ever gotten a speeding ticket? yes 33:Ever ran out of gas? no 34:Favorite kind of sandwich? PB&J 35:Best thing to eat for breakfast? Wa-Ho 36:What is your usual bedtime? 11p 37:Are you lazy? sometimes 38:When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween? I was a Karate guy one year 39:What is your Chinese astrological sign? who knows? 40:How many languages can you speak? only one fluently, but I know a good bit of Spanish and American Sign Language 41:Do you have any magazine subscriptions? Discover 42:Which are better legos or lincoln logs? LEGOs 43:Are you stubborn? yes 44:Who is better…Leno or Letterman? Letterman hands down 45:Ever watch soap operas? used to 46:Are you afraid of heights? maybe a bit 47:Do you sing in the car? I don’t sing anywhere. 48:Do you sing in the shower? see above 49:Do you dance in the car? no 50:Ever used a gun? yes 51:Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer? a few weeks ago 52:Do you think musicals are cheesy? no 53:Is Christmas stressful? no 54:Ever eat a pierogi? no, don’t even know what one is 55:Favorite type of fruit pie? apple 56:Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? baseball player 57:Do you believe in ghosts? no 58:Ever have a Deja-vu feeling? yes 59:Take a vitamin daily? no 60:Wear slippers? no 61:Wear a bath robe? no 62:What do you wear to bed? boxers 63:First concert? Big Day Out 1997 (Squirel Nut Zippers, Cowboy Mouth, don’t remember the others) 64:Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart? Target 65:Nike or Adidas? Adidas 66:Cheetos Or Fritos? Cheetos 67:Peanuts or Sunflower seeds? peanuts 68:Ever hear of the group Tres Bien? hmm… I don’t think so 69:Ever take dance lessons? yes 70:Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing? I’m married. 71:Can you curl your tongue? yes 72:Ever won a spelling bee? no 73:Have you ever cried because you were so happy? yes 74:Own any record albums? no 75:Own a record player? wish I did 76:Regularly burn incense? not REGULARLY, but occasionally 77:Ever been in love? yes 78:Who would you like to see in concert? CAKE 79:What was the last concert you saw? Modern Skirts 80:Hot tea or cold tea? cold. and sweet. 81:Tea or coffee? we talking sweet tea? if that other stuff, coffee. 82:Sugar or snickerdoodles? sugar 83:Can you swim well? yes 84:Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? umm… yes Is that difficult for some people? 85:Are you patient? not really 86:DJ or band, at a wedding? we had a band 87:Ever won a contest? no 88:Ever have plastic surgery? haven’t, but not opposed 89:Which are better black or green olives? neither 90:Can you knit or crochet? I can cross-stitch 91:Best room for a fireplace? bedroom 92:Do you want to get married? I’m married. 93:If married, how long have you been married? 9 years 95:Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? no 96:Do you have kids? yes, 2 97:Do you want kids? more? no. two is good. 98:Whats your favorite color? blue? 99:Do you miss anyone right now? sure.
I’m a young, black Muslim girl. I started wearing hijab last year and I’m still not used to the male-gaze/the white gaze. I get so uncomfortable, sad, and annoyed to have literally everyone stare at me constantly and make such weird attempts to grab my attention. I’m an introvert obviously….
“America was built on two monumental crimes: the genocide of the Native American and the enslavement of the African American. The tendency of official America is to memorialize other peoples’ crimes and to forget its own - to seek a high moral ground as a pretext to ignore real issues.”—
My boyfriend and I aren’t having sex for faith-related reasons, but we’re not the sheltered religious types. We talk about sex and fetishes and fantasies and what have you. The whole category of topics is hardly taboo.
Waiting’s not the problem. The problem is that, in practice, I get freaked out by my own sexuality. Religious doctrine aside, I really believe that sex is this awesome activity that is a natural part of who humans are, something to be treated with respect, because it’s powerful, and enjoyed, not vilified. But still, getting turned on, and all the things that follow, makes me… sort of ashamed. Like my body’s doing these weird, gross things, and it shouldn’t be. I’d like to not be freaked out by the fact that my own sexuality is a real thing. I’d like to enjoy what the boyfriend and I do, but I get caught up in anxiety and shame and, past a certain level of intensity, stop enjoying myself. Which sucks.
So there’s this contradiction in my head between what I’m feeling, and what I believe, and I just want to enjoy having a sex drive. You take no shit and are brutally honest, which is why I’m asking you instead of, say, a therapist. I’m pretty much hoping you have some magical regimen that will help me shut the hell up and enjoy myself instead of feeling afraid.
Okay, here’s what you do: Go online and buy a giant dildo crucifix, slather it in bacon lube, and have your boyfriend ram it into your big dumb vagina while you scream, “There is no god! There is no god! There is no god!”
Seriously, though. You want a cure for your cognitive dissonance? Stop believing in stupid shit. Your religion is a bronze-age fiction passed down through the ages by the ruling classes to keep social order. Let go of that nonsense. It’s poisoning you.
It’s great that you think sex is awesome, but you can’t just put religious doctrine aside when it’s the source of your sexual repression. You have to reject all that bullshit outright.
Religious doctrine is a tool of subjugation, and right now, it’s subjugating your sex life. If you had enough perspective, you’d realize that biblical notions of virginity are just a primitive form of institutional slavery. The sexual shame you’re feeling is all a dirty trick designed by creepy old men to protect your value as a piece of property. It has nothing to do with anything spiritual.
Keep the god if you must, but you can’t keep the doctrine, because at the end of the day, you’re a gigantic asshole if you believe that the creator of our unimaginably vast universe gives two shits about what you cram into your nether regions.
I have two weeks before school starts. The pressure is on to get as much down on our transition to the Bookstore Model as I can. I went in last week and shifted about 90% of the 398s to the picture book section. There are a few anthologies of folktales that I need to figure out. I also created a separate section for poetry, away from nonfiction. Apart from that, I’ve shifted a few things here and there: space vehicles from 629 to 520, included cheerleading in Sports, and pulled out any books on Georgia to make a special section.
I’m making this all up as I go and I’m sure there will be things I mess up on my first try, but I’m confident that this transition will result in my students being more independent and confident in their book searches.